On 9th November 2012, Mrs Uma,
wife of an officer in the Indian Air Force at Trivandrum filed an FIR at the
Peroorkada Police Station, Trivandrum as follows:
“My father Shri T.R. Narayanan,
80 years, who was staying with me in
Trivandrum at Planning Board Lane, Rajalakshmi Nagar, Pattom,
Thiruvananthapuram has been missing since 8th November 2012. He is a dementia
patient and has no clear memory; consequently he is under essential, regular
medication. He went out for a walk on 8th November in the afternoon between
12.30 and 1 pm. He has not returned till date”
Narayanan was the second son of M
V Ramaswamy Iyer and Ranganayakki who were agriculturists owning more than 400
acres of paddy land at Palakkad, Kerala. They gave employment to many people
and also personally toiled to produce paddy and other agricultural commodities.
That was the time Kerala embraced the communist rule (first time in the world a
communist government was democratically elected). Ramaswamy Iyer lost the
entire 400 acres of land in the ‘communist revolution’ when the ‘tiller became
the owner’. On a fine day he became landless. He was not in a position to fight
a legal battle. He died when his son Narayanan was just 11 years old. As the
entire family property of many generations was lost, Narayanan started going
for stenography classes immediately after completing his matriculation. He
travelled to Bombay in search of a job. As he couldn’t get a proper job, he
reached Bangalore and later got placed in the Hindustan Aeronautics Ltd. He
brought his younger sister and mother to Bangalore and took up the
responsibility of the education and marriage of his sister. He got married to
Saroja and had two children Uma and Vidya. His wife died when he was 57.
Narayanan was a source of
inspiration for his daughters throughout his life. Once both of them got
married, he chose to stay alone without disturbing any of the daughters. He
cooked himself, did gardening, maintained the house and enjoyed his old age. He
used to go and stay with his daughters for a few days during festivals and
birthdays. He was proud and confident being healthy and independent. But the
daughters noticed something strange soon. He started forgetting the names of
the close relatives. He lost the way to the house of his daughter. He forgot
his own landline number.
Daughters of Narayanan quickly
realized the need for a panic button.
Narayanan was losing his memory very rapidly. Narayanan was staying with
his daughter Uma at Trivandrum till the morning of 8th Nov 2012, the day he was
found missing. The details were published in newspapers. Announcements were
made in Doordarshan and a local channel. Daughters met the Chief Minister at
his residence and handed over a written petition seeking his help to trace their father. Meanwhile an auto driver reported that he saw the missing person
crossing the road at PMG junction with the help of a Policeman on a particular
day. From the CCTV footage at the traffic signal the policeman identified
Narayanan. Frantic searches were made in all possible directions across Kerala
and Tamil Nadu. Posters were put up at
prominent locations and letters were sent to all old age homes and Ashrams.
After several months, a letter
was received from the ‘Home of Hope’ a
charitable organization run by a person called ‘Auto Raja’ at Bangalore
confirming that Bangalore Police had handed over Mr Narayanan to them on 10th
November 2012 and he had a peaceful death at their home on 23rd November. Narayanan was
found sitting alone in the
Marathahalli Ring Road (Narayanan had
lived in the house in that location for about 40 years) and a
conscientious passer-by reported that to
the police after it was found that he was unable to recall the address of his
daughters. He was just mumbling ‘my daughter…my daughter’. The people from the
‘Home of Hope’ cremated him on 24th
November 2012 as per the Hindu rites seeing his poonal. They had taken the picture of Mr Narayanan on
the day of arrival and also of his body after he was no more.
Friends, be aware...
Next time when you see a person
sitting lonely on the street, remember he could be a person who had lost his
memory and yearning to get united with his/her dear ones! Naryanan’s two daughters,
Uma and Vidya were devastated when they heard that their loving dad had roamed
on all streets in Trivandrum and Bangalore looking for the houses of his
daughters. Imagine the plight of a person who had lost his memory and unable to
find his way to sweet home!
Dementia or the specific disorder
called Alzheimer’s is a neurodegenerative disease, a progressive brain cell
death. As per the World Alzheimer Report 2013, ‘nearly half of the 101 million dependent
older people in the world are living with and experiencing the effects of
dementia’.
The WHO Dementia report estimated
that ‘there are 7.7 million new cases of dementia each year, implying that
there is a new case of dementia somewhere in the world every four seconds’. It calls
for the following:
- promoting a
dementia-friendly society globally;
- making dementia a national
public health and social care priority worldwide;
- improving public and
professional attitudes to, and understanding of, dementia;
- investing in health and
social systems to improve care and services for people with dementia and
their caregivers;
their caregivers;
- increasing the priority
given to dementia in the public health research agenda.
(One can read the full report here:
http://www.who.int/mental_health/publications/dementia_report_2012/en/
)
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Narayanan has gone for ever. But
we have a few angels like Auto Raja who serve hundreds of destitute people who
have stranded on the streets of our cities.
After knowing about the above
incident from Vidya, daughter of Narayanan, I was curious to know more about
the person called Auto Raja who took care of her father and given him a
dignified funeral. I found out his address and spent two days with him to know
about his great service. You can read about that (along with a short film) in
another article. (click here to read)
(c) Sibichen K Mathew
A really moving real life story. Some time ago similar story came to light in Delhi. Such an old person is just like a small child and hence should be taken care of in a similar way. Kindergarten children have I Card hanging around their neck so that if any of them lose way back to home some one can guide them.
ReplyDeleteGreat story, Sibi. I agree with Anil, people with such disability should carry an ID card.
ReplyDeleteNow off to read the Auto Raja story.